I’m a big lover of love and Valentine’s Day is one of my favourite holidays there is because it’s a celebration of love! There tends to be a lot of negative ethos associated with Valentine’s Day but I have always enjoyed it both as someone in a relationship and someone single. I have been in a relationship for 6 years, but most years I spend Valentine’s Day alone (thanks to long distance). Initially was really bummed because most of my good friends have plans and I honestly didn’t know what to do with myself. I had to take my own advice that I’ve given to my friends over the years and live that because.. you have to take your own advice right?. Whether you’re showing yourself or someone else love, I think it’s really great day to just get back in touch with what it means to love.
Quick reminder that if you don’t first love yourself, you just CANNOT love someone fully and deeply (in my opinion, anyways). If you feel insecure or upset about a lack of relationship, maybe it is just a lack of self love because since when does being in a relationship define your worth? After my relationship ended, I learned the importance of being happy independently. Even if you are in a relationship, I think it is the most valuable thing to be able to be your own person and happy on your own. It also improves the strength of a relationship significantly because when life gets in the way (and it does), you’re able to spend time with yourself and be secure in that!
So here is a list of 10 ways you can spend your Valentine’s Day without a date. Whether that’s because your significant other is busy/not in the same country/non-existent or you simply choose to spend the day with yourself, here are some of my favourite ideas.
1. Spend the day learning a new skill
Take some time to learn something fun. Pick up some sign language, take a pottery class, attend a yoga workshop (for example, last year I took a 3 hour inversion focused yoga class and loved it!), spend some time researching something you’ve always been interested. Practice painting, singing, dancing. Fall in love with teaching yourself a new skill. And this is one of my personal favourite things to do in general when I have nothing else to do. It’s great for self development and is such a productive use of time. Most importantly, it’s a lot of fun!
2. Read a book
When was the last time you read a book? I’m embarrassed to admit that the only time I really have to read books lately is on planes when there is zero distraction and connection to social media or the internet. Because my full time job is so dependent on the internet, it’s really hard for me to stop working completely.
There’s something so rewarding and special about reading a book, feeling the pages between your fingers and the smell of books (am I weird? Am I the only one?). Pick up a book you’ve always been meaning to read, or pick one at random!
My 2 most recent reads: The Alchemist and Sweetbitter
3. Order in
It can be a little daunting to think about dining out on Valentine’s Day if you don’t have a date planned. That being said, I think the ultimate goal is to be able to walk into a restaurant full of people on dates, enjoy a meal by yourself and not give a f*ck! I’m not quite there yet, and I understand why doing that is not the most attractive idea SO instead, treat yourself to a night in. Order in your favourite food, stay in your pajamas and enjoy a cozy night in.
4. Take care of yourself
This one was something I chatted with one of my best friends about. We were talking about how before dates with other people, we tend to take the best care of ourselves and go all out with the self care. Then we started talking about how we wish we would just do that for ourselves and not other people and this brings us to this tip! Take the time to take care of yourself. It’s so empowering to indulge in a little self care for no one other than yourself.
Take a bath, do a little face mask, listen to music, light candles, exfoliate, do a 10-step skincare routine because why not!! Do a hair mask, do your eyebrows, paint your toes and nails and…whatever else you do. And if you’re not a fan of doing it yourself, make an appointment to get a haircut/facial/manicure/pedicure.
5. Attend a singles event!
So you’re single and you don’t want to be. Go attend a singles event! Put yourself out there. There are typically tons of singles events on Valentine’s day so you can spend your day with other people who are in the same boat as you and maybe you’ll even meet the love of your life…. or not but it could still be fun.
Turn off your phone! Take a break from social media. Around Valentine’s Day, social media can create an illusion of a goal or some kind of standard to compare yourself to. I fully support couples showing love on social media because why not celebrate love and happiness, but also know that feeling when you’re not stoked to be spending the day alone and all you see on your feed are photos of happy couples, roses, dates etc. If that’s you, consider staying off social media for the day, or for at least a couple hours because we could all benefit from a little digital detox every now and then.
7. Spend time with your friends, family and pets
Because your friends and family should be loves of your life and pets are up there too right? If you’re feeling lonely, spend time with people who make you feel good.
8. Get outside!
Fresh air and nature are mood boosters (as are flowers if you want to treat yourself). If you live somewhere where nature is accessible (looking at you with jealousy, California babies), get outside and move your body. Take a walk, a hike, a jog and breathe in the fresh air. For New Yorkers like myself, even a walk in Central Park is one of my favourite mood boosters! But also, I’d pick a beach or some sunshine over Central Park any day.
9. Do some pre-spring cleaning
Hear me out on this one because I know it doesn’t sound like a party. I don’t know about you, but whenever I take the time to downsize and minimize my belongings, it makes me realize how unimportant material items are, and how important people and experiences are. It also makes me very grateful, realizing how much STUFF I have and am ABLE to have. So I like to spring clean because it puts me in a better mood, and when I focus less on material things in life, I feel a lot more satisfaction and happiness.
I like to make stops to local charities and donation centers to donate the things I remove, and that is also a great mood booster and way to give back.
This is actually an idea I got from my best friend Lisa. When we were talking about spending Valentine’s Day sans date, she suggested volunteering and we started talking about how Valentine’s Day is just ONE DAY out of the entire year and how not having a date for this “holiday” becomes such a small “problem” when you put into perspective how lucky we are to have a home, food, etc. whereas not everyone does. Giving back is a great use of time, a great way to spread love and give back and honestly, doing something good and selfless usually makes you feel good and feel gratitude. I personally LOVE this idea so I had to share it with you guys.
I came up with this list very last minute so I’m sure there are better ideas out there but this is just a list to get you started. Most importantly don’t forget that Valentine’s Day only has as much significance as you give it. I would highly encourage you not to hate on love, but instead shift your perspective and find love for yourself!!
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BY Remy • February 13, 2018
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